I think there is a lot to be said for finding a good fit. Fitting in somewhere can mean different things to different people. Today I am going to use pants as a way of sharing what is in my heart.
We all have special places where we feel we fit better than others. Sometimes the places that feel best are home, church, or even work. Places where we feel at home tend to be comfortable, like our favorite pair of sweat pants. Sweatpants are not haters. They take us as we are. Thin or not so thin. Tall or short, they don’t mind. They accommodate us all, no matter what. The interesting thing, though, is that while they are comfy and accepting, they are usually not very complementary.
Anybody who has worn sweatpants often (oh me ??) seems to agree that gaining weight happens more easily, almost unnoticeably. Sometimes it can even get to a point when we completely outgrow the size we once fit in, but don’t know because our sweatpants grew right with us. We love that they are unbinding, not disciplinary. But, for the sake of comfort, or fitting in, have we let ourselves go?
There are also pants that are not so comfy, like some of the places we’ll go in our lives. Did you know there are pants now for everyone? There are slimming, petite, tall, boot cut, etc. You name the body type and there are special pants for it. We all tend to choose clothing that makes us look as good as possible, but you know as well as I do that there are a few things in our closets that we have to squeeze in to wear. Why? Because we are trying to cover the things we don’t like. We are covering the things that are unflattering in our eyes. We know that contrary to sweatpants that are worn in comfortable places, there are pants to be worn in a place of show. A place where if you aren’t on your “A” game, you could be replaced. You know what I hate most about these “special pants?” They are high maintenance. Special cleaning or ironing is often required and many times these are the pants that step right into the role of the judge when the scale fluctuates in the wrong direction. They are often uncomfortable. They are the first thing to come off when we get home. Sometimes they even get unbuttoned on the journey home because trying to fit in them is painful. Beauty on the outside doesn’t always mean the fit is good. For the sake of fitting, are we cutting off circulation and therefore denying who we really are?
Let’s take these two choices of pants and apply them to our walk with God. Is our walk with God like a pair of comfy sweats or like the dress pants? Both of these options can be detrimental to our walk with God. Although it is okay to find comfort, we cannot go beyond healthy boundaries to something that will destroy us. Although it is healthy to “put ourselves together” we must not use this to hide what is really inside, forgetting that God created us to be special and unique. A child made in his image and unashamed. My desire is to be somewhere in between.
Matthew 19:14 but Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.”
Whether we have spiritually been in sweatpants, letting things go or dress pants holding it all in or somewhere in the middle, I think it’s time to let God choose our next pants. I think it’s time to let our Heavenly Father choose what we fit in best.
Have you ever seen a child in a new pair of pants? When you give a child new pants, you buy them slightly too big so there is room for growth. You are preparing them for what is to come. Do you know what happens when they play in pants that are too big? They trip and fall. You constantly have to pull them up. You can use a belt but nothing will really make them fit until the child grows into them!
I want my next set of big girl pants from my Heavenly Father! I know that I will fall, but I also know He will be faithfully by my side to pick me back up and dust me off. I know I might look silly, but He is preparing me to grow. I want to be like the tree spoken about in Jeremiah 17:8, “He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit.”
I promise to not laugh at you as you walk forward and sometimes stumble in your new pants! I know God is growing you too!